It’s never easy to go through the pain of losing a loved one, regardless of the time of year. However, going through this hard experience during the holidays can heighten the grief you’re experiencing. While you may want to gather with family and friends like usual, you may also need time to mourn. It can be very difficult to find the right balance, so keep these things in mind if you have lost someone close to you this holiday season.
You Decide What You Can Handle
Every person copes with their emotions differently. If you think being surrounded by friends and family will provide the comfort and support you seek, then you should definitely participate in the usual traditions. However, many grieving people would prefer not to be surrounded by other people, especially other people that are enjoying time with their own families. Do not feel like you are obligated to participate. If you think being in those situations will exacerbate your grief, your family and friends will understand if you don’t attend. They will know you’re not avoiding them due to ill-will. Everyone needs to be able to grieve in their own way and in their own time. How you choose to mourn is up to you.
However You Feel Is Acceptable
During the holiday season, some mourners will try to hide thier sadness. Others will feel openly hurt by happy occasions that bring up painful memories. Either one of these reactions is normal and acceptable. You should not feel guilty for feeling happy or sad. Allow yourself to get through your emotions, whatever they may be.
Talk with Your Loved Ones
Talking to others about how you’re feeling ensures that you aren’t doing more than you can handle. Talking things out also provides stress relief during your time of need. Let your friends and family know if you aren’t ready to discuss things, or that it is alright to bring it up and talk it over. Either way, being open and honest will help everyone involved.
Consider Doing Something Special to Commemorate Your Loved One
Performing some sort of recognition for lost loved ones during your celebrations provides a sense of closure. If you’re a friend or family member of someone who is grieving, consider incorporating a small memorial into your celebration. You could discuss stories of your favorite moments, light memory candles, or even make a donation in the deceased's name.
Funeral Arrangement Assistance
The holidays are already full of planning and coordination. Adding funeral, cremation, or burial arrangements to an already hectic schedule can get overwhelming. That is why the professionals at Distinctive Life will come to you at any time and place, even during the holiday season. We are there to minimize your stress and let you grieve in peace.